For many of us, growing up was carefree and easy. Our parents did their best to provide every opportunity they could. From enrolling us in sports, finding us the best schools and saving money for college, we had it easy. We were sheltered and lucky. However, there is one thing that no parent or person can control or manipulate, and that is fate. Sometimes things work out differently than we hope, causing us to start over and readjust. Sometimes things happen for no specific reason other than they just weren’t meant to be.
For the people who have already experienced this rejection – you will be thankful. And for the people who have never heard “no” and never been swept in an uncertain direction – your time will come.
It’s hard to watch someone who gets everything continue to get everything. But over the years I have learned something very valuable.
Rejection is good for the soul.
For those who have already experienced this, consider yourself lucky. Yes, rejection hurts and uncertainty is scary. But I’ve discovered myself more so through rejection than through acceptance. I don’t believe you truly know somebody’s character until you’ve seen their reaction to rejection. Sure, it’s easy to have a good attitude when you’ve only ever gotten what you’ve planned for. But the true test of character comes from the way you handle what you did not plan for.
Elasticity is important. And the ability to become resilient is crucial.
Resilience is the ability to bounce back after a fall.
My mindset is this: the more rejection and uncertainty you’ve encountered, the stronger you are and will continue to be. It’s like anything else; the more experience you have with it, the more prepared you’ll be. If you’ve been denied acceptance to your dream school or dream job, you’ve experienced resilience. If you’ve had your heartbroken and been blindsided in a relationship, you’ve experienced resilience. Whether it was being denied an internship, getting cut from a sports team, being dumped, or being dealt a hand of bad-luck, you’ve been made stronger through resilence.
So don’t be jealous of the people who get everything. Don’t be spiteful to those who don’t deal with adversity. And don’t be ashamed of your hardship. Consider every failure a win. Sure, you didn’t get what you planned for, but you were able to overcome that uncertainty, deal with the change of plans and learn from your situation.
The first time hearing “no” is the hardest. My first detrimental “no” came when I tried out for Varsity cheerleading. Little did I know how much positive impact that “no” would have on me. Because of that “no,” I was able to learn about myself. In turn, I came back stronger and more prepared than before, eventually becoming captain. Never let rejection discourage you. If you’re cut from a team, try out again. If you’re declined from your dream school, discover the opportunities at new ones. If you’re denied an internship, find a different one.
Life is all about adjustment and re-evlauation.
Roll with the punches and strive to be someone who can handle anything.
“A diamond is just a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well.”